Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Frequencies and Wavelengths in Roller Derby

Last night when I was coaching, I talked about some things that you might be interested in.

If you've been following along, then you know I'm super into metaphysics and things of an other-worldly nature. Though I'm finding more practical, every day applications of these interests all the time.

In fact, there's pretty much no aspect of my life, strategy I coach, or talk I give that doesn't involve the word "energy." And I'm very delighted to say that people get it. Coming out of the metaphysical closet was the one of the best things I've done in roller derby, I believe.

So this subject of frequencies and wavelengths is another one I'd like to share.

Before giving the Puppy Talk, I give an over-the-top compliment like, "That was totally amazing and I am very proud of you." And the crazy thing is, most of the time, no one even hears it.

It's not because I say it quieter than most things, it's not because I'm not looking people in the eye when I say it... It's just that people who aren't on the wavelength of self-appreciation just don't recognize over-the-top-appreciation from others. Does not compute.

And this explains so many of my derby experiences, really. I remember getting sat down at a bar once by volunteers who said, "You don't appreciate your volunteers."

And I was like, "Hang on a sec, I THANK YOU ALL THE TIME! I even place my hand on your shoulder when I do it." I can be very touchy-feely, and you think you'd notice someone touching you and saying thank you....

Unless you're just not even on that frequency. Then it's like someone blowing a dog whistle in your ear. You notice that something's happening, but not really taking in what it is.

I've found positive use of frequencies in extreme focus. I played a game once where my team swore up and down that the team we were playing were screaming profane words at us the whole bout.

I believe them, but I didn't hear any of it. Not one mean word. Because I was so in the moment, I heard nothing but my own heartbeat and breathing. If that. It was one of my better games, and I was in such a focused frame of mind, that nothing outside of that wavelength even existed to me.

Interesting stuff, right?

I give the Puppy Talk, and the other Seminars I do, to give people the option to choose a different frequency. Just to make it available. Because it seems like a shame not to even hear when people say nice things. That's the type of thing that's worth tuning in for.

Friday, June 22, 2012

Roller Derby - Changing the Future

The video below is a little bit quiet, so I thought I'd write a little to go with it.

Did you ever dig through an older relative's old collection of family photos? See older generations of relatives you never knew, and find one that you think is amazing?

I totally believe that someday far in the future, some young person is going to find old pictures of you in your derby get-up and be in complete and total awe that they are related to someone that cool, brave, amazing, rad.

And it will inspire them to greatness. Someone who hasn't even been born yet, will look at you as a symbol of everything that is awesome about the world, and use that image to create more awesome.

Epic, right??

Saturday, June 16, 2012

Self Reliance In Roller Derby ~ A Tough Love Post

I'm sure there's a look of bewilderment on my face when skaters complain to me that their Coaches don't tell them how they can improve anymore.

Personally, I don't remember the last time anyone offered me help on my game, unsolicited. It may have been in 2004. If I want someone's feedback, I have to ask for it. And even then... It's very hard to find people who would actually give me any, even though I know... quite a few people in roller derby.

Is that sad, bad, or wrong? No. I think it's awesome that things have worked out this way. It may not be the easy road, but I've learned to be resourceful. And I think that's a gift that keeps on giving.

Make sure you're not a Spoiled Skater or Spoiled Coach. Please don't email someone and ask them how to do everything. Hack away at it first. Find your own way first, then ask for if there's any suggested adjustments. Ask EDUCATED QUESTIONS.

Here's a spoiled question:
Skater: "I just started jamming, any tips? I'll take whatever you've got."
Coach: "I just started coaching, what do I need to know? Any advice appreciated."

Here's some educated questions:
Skater: "I've watched your Seals and Sharks video, and been applying it to my jamming, and noticed that when I'm in the turns, slide out sometimes takes me from the middle to the deep water. Any tips on how to adjust the strategy to a slippery floor?"
Coach:"After listening to your MP3, Inspired Coaching, I've tried the method you suggested for doing X, and getting result Y. Am I missing a part of the process? Overall things are working, I just need help with this one adjustment."

If I've sent you to this blog post in response to your request, it's because you're asking for too much. Please ask yourself these questions first. Be resourceful, and then compare notes with me. I'm happy to compare notes with you.

But I'm not just going to give you a greatest hits of 9 years experience for free. You can download one of my MP3s for that!

Everyone who's at the top of their game has learned in small part from others, and in large part from making it up as they go along. 

Like I said in the last post, it's that I don't care, or don't want to help you. It's that I totally do!