Saturday, June 16, 2012

Self Reliance In Roller Derby ~ A Tough Love Post

I'm sure there's a look of bewilderment on my face when skaters complain to me that their Coaches don't tell them how they can improve anymore.

Personally, I don't remember the last time anyone offered me help on my game, unsolicited. It may have been in 2004. If I want someone's feedback, I have to ask for it. And even then... It's very hard to find people who would actually give me any, even though I know... quite a few people in roller derby.

Is that sad, bad, or wrong? No. I think it's awesome that things have worked out this way. It may not be the easy road, but I've learned to be resourceful. And I think that's a gift that keeps on giving.

Make sure you're not a Spoiled Skater or Spoiled Coach. Please don't email someone and ask them how to do everything. Hack away at it first. Find your own way first, then ask for if there's any suggested adjustments. Ask EDUCATED QUESTIONS.

Here's a spoiled question:
Skater: "I just started jamming, any tips? I'll take whatever you've got."
Coach: "I just started coaching, what do I need to know? Any advice appreciated."

Here's some educated questions:
Skater: "I've watched your Seals and Sharks video, and been applying it to my jamming, and noticed that when I'm in the turns, slide out sometimes takes me from the middle to the deep water. Any tips on how to adjust the strategy to a slippery floor?"
Coach:"After listening to your MP3, Inspired Coaching, I've tried the method you suggested for doing X, and getting result Y. Am I missing a part of the process? Overall things are working, I just need help with this one adjustment."

If I've sent you to this blog post in response to your request, it's because you're asking for too much. Please ask yourself these questions first. Be resourceful, and then compare notes with me. I'm happy to compare notes with you.

But I'm not just going to give you a greatest hits of 9 years experience for free. You can download one of my MP3s for that!

Everyone who's at the top of their game has learned in small part from others, and in large part from making it up as they go along. 

Like I said in the last post, it's that I don't care, or don't want to help you. It's that I totally do!

1 comment:

  1. Hah! When I first started I was very much a "spoiled coach" though I think it was more "overwhelmed coach." As in - I have no idea where to start or what to do or how to move forward, and surely these people know things?!

    Well yes, yes they do know things. It took me a bit to understand that good coaches know LOTS of things and are happy to help - with specifics. I am finally learning how to ask the specific question instead of the vague one. It's kinda like setting that specific, achievable goal instead of a vague one.

    Awesome post overall with good food for thought.