This is a blog post I hope I can get a lot of feedback on, especially from parents of Junior Skaters!
So... one thing I struggle with frequently is my words when coaching Juniors. They know I swear, I know they swear, but there's a social norm that says we're not supposed to do it around each other, or I'm a terrible role model.
But... THEY KNOW I SWEAR ALL THE TIME, just not around them.
This isn't like... a new thing for me. It's who I am! I got kicked out of the Girl Scouts and a church group for young women for swearing. And there were kids in the neighborhood who couldn't play with me because their parents heard me swearing.
Some people think swearing is for the ignorant: not me. I entered college as an English Major with 12 scholarships for writing essays in 1999. (Tied for most scholarships in my graduating class.) I'm educated, I'm articulate, and "fuck" has always been my favorite word.
So, my question is: which is MORE irresponsible:
A) Being less than genuine around the future generation: essentially treating them like they don't need to see the full-on real me.
B) Potentially setting a standard that says: say whatever the fuck you want, even if some people don't like it, potentially disrespecting parents of Juniors.
I'm not giving advice here, I'm asking for help! I need insight. Because the truth is that I consider coaching impressionable young women a great responsibility, that I do want to honor to the fullest. But I also want to be who I am: which is an example of a generally happy person, ambitious, sporty and... expressive! Some of them need that example. But is it disrespectful to their parents?
It's a subject I'll have to reflect on quite a bit in the coming months. Send me your thoughts at Bonnie@derbydolls.com xoxo